Have you ever considered the pressure felt by the wives and children of Elders, Deacons, and Ministers? We, as a congregation, often praise the work of our leaders and servants but neglect the contributions of the family behind the scenes. The man and the people behind the man are often the subject of great scrutiny and lofty expectations that are not necessarily fair. It’s true that these men should be held to a higher standard (James 3:1) but should their family be held to a level of near perfection?
The Spouse and children are often subjected to criticism on every subject imaginable such as but not limited to behavior, discipline, attire, attitude, etc. What we often overlook is the amount of sacrifice the family makes for the cause of Christ (e.g. late Sunday lunches, nights away from home, phone calls at various times of day and night, lost family time). Is this really fair?
Do we hold ourselves to the same standard we place on our leaders and their families? The same law we use to hold them accountable is the same one that applies to us; especially when we exercise a lack of patience, love, and understanding towards these leaders and their families (James 2:1-13).
It is emphatically unrealistic to think that our leaders and their families should and can live without sin (Romans 3:23). It is also unrealistic for us to neglect holding ourselves and our family to the same standard we place on our leaders and their families. The spotlight is bright and sometimes hot. Let us endeavor to not shine such a bright light in one direction and keep our own standards in the darkness (Matthew 7:3-5). When was the last time you thanked the family of a Deacon, Elder, Minister, etc., for their sacrifice and support?